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Acting Up, Out




  Acting out is a psychological term for defense mechanisms and self-control. Its usually anti-social, taking the form of a drug-addiction, alcoholism or shoplifting and meant to draw attention.



Acting up is a conscious, deliberate misbehaving.



  Temper tantrums, among children, can be seen as acting out. They are an effective way to alert parents to their needs, including attention.



  The danger is presuming someone acting inappropriately is driven by an unconscious inner conflict when, in fact, they're immature and irresponsible, but, fully aware and perfectly able to control themselves.



  Ideally, children replace attention gathering strategies with socially acceptable and constructive communications. In adolescense, such behavior is seen as a 'cry for help'. The young person may seem disruptive, and, may be so, but are unlikely to control their emotions in any better way.



  Misperceiving the nature of circumstances is, likely, the way people end up abused by others.
Denial is another frequently misused term. Often the logic is flawed in the construction of research and in the interpretation of results, as well. So says Dr. George Simon.



Simon says (no pun) unscrupulous people do their homework to get the best of you.

 

  Among Simon's tools of empowerment are accepting no excuses for inappropriate behavior and judging actions instead of intentions. He goes on to encourage holding people accountable to being and expecting direct communcation and not be lured off the message by diversionary, evasive tactics.



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