Disappointment
When things don't turn out the way you planned, that knot in your stomach is disappointment. Similar to regret, stemming from the choices, disappointment is what it can amount to.
Disappointment comes from what you expected. How you take it depends, but some blame others, they get frustrated or are just bummed. A study of children found depression could be in your genes, a slow recovery from disappointment.
An inability to prepare for disappointment, in optimists, can leave them open to sickness, a weakened immune system. While optimists, by and large, show good health disappointment wears them down, in the long run. Because optimists don't have, or use an emotional cushion, they are not prepared for this 'disappointment effect'.
Melanie Klein and Freud said cultures that side step disappointment contribute to an illusion of a perfect life, keeping people from forming a healthy identity.
Disappointment theory claims people look to how things could have been, so that even positive outcomes can let them down. For example, Bell says someone won 10-grand in the lottery, they'd handle it better if that amount was the most they could win, rather than the least. Analysts say people anticipate disappointment to avoid that gut feeling.
This avoidance explains the Allais paradox, people would rather choose a sure reward than risk a higher reward when it was less likely. Go with the sure bet.
Comparable to taking stock dividends, but let down knowing if you would have waited a few more days you could have sold the stock for more.
A Psychology Today article recommends taking concrete steps knowing setbacks are normal, set realistic goals, plan subsequent moves, if-then, seek support and tackle tasks in stages rather than painting the whole shabang red.
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