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Coping




  In coping with stress, people use one of three strategies, appraisal, problem or emotion focused coping.



  Appraisal when you modify the way you think, denial or distancing yourself from the problem. With a sense of humor, you can change goals and values.



  Problem-focused deal with the cause of the problem, with investigation, gathering information, learning new skills to manage problems.



  Emotion based strategies are releasing pent-up emotions, distraction, managing hostile feelings, use of systematic relaxation methods.



People use the coping methods and other coping skills, that can change over time.

All methods are useful, problem-focused given an edge in lifeskills.



  Men, generally, prefer problem-focused, women tend toward emotion based. Problem-focused tends to allow greater perceived control of the problem. Emotion geared may lead to a reduction in perceived control.



  Resilience is a psychological capacity to cope with stress and adversity. Resilience can be a 'bouncing back' to a previous state of normal function. Or a 'diamond' approach, back to the wall,  'steeling', outdoing expectation.



Resilience seen not as an individual trait, but as a process.



  Recent evidence to resilience as a  'turn around',  a sharp reversal from spiraling disappointment. For example, some beginning junior high school could do poor with critical life transitions, but experience less severe problems than expected, all things considered.



   People who cope with racial slant might show a 'hidden' resilience when they don't conform with society's behavioral responses. Aggression may be condoned, in an abusive situation, less emotional engagement may be protective.



  Resilience completed with cumulative  'protective factors',  and viewed as protective process, incorporating risk.



  Most research finds resilience the result of individuals interacting with their environments, processing to promote well-being or protect from overwhelming risk factors. These mechanisms can be taught by good families, schools, or by social policies that make resiliency likely.





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