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Loner




  A loner is one who avoids, doesn't seek human interaction, prefers to be alone. There are many reasons for solitude, the loner has no specific cause. Intentional reasons are spiritual and religious, unintentional are being shy or highly sensitive. The common connotation for the loner is negative, human beings are social, so, those who are not are deviant.



  There are two distinct loners. The first prefer solitude and are content to have limited social interaction. They are not lonely, when alone. The second believe they are forced into isolation, rejected by society. These experience loneliness. Both characteristic common symptoms, the bliss of solitude comes at the price of loneliness.



  Popularly, the loner carries a romanticism, seen as special or unique. The belief the truly great are iconoclastic to the corrupt standard, superficiality of life. The lonely hero is a common theme in stories.



 Some see a benefit to being a loner. They can review things reflectively, mature faster, easily reach their goals and be more focused on the task at hand. Disconnected from others, they avoid peer pressure, make their own decisions. Because of a perceived superiority, they will only relate to the worthy. This loner will have few intimate relationships. Though it may take time, loners will give it up to those they confide, otherwise, shell up with someone unfamiliar.



 The shy or lacking self-esteem can socialize with those they see constantly. An overly self-consciousness causes the belief others are sizing them up. A self imposed sense of alienation from society can develop.



  Though preferring to be alone, loners do not reject human contact, altogether. An example, someone may only give what is necessary among co-workers, to avoid further complications among them, but during parties or social gatherings is charismatic with the not so familiar.



  Most loners can act normally in social settings. However the uncomfortable strain of situations leaves them exhausted. They might have to retreat before being able to, once again, involve with others.



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