Crocodile tears
Crocodile tears are a false, insincere displays of emotion, as a hypocrite crying tears of grief.
Psychological manipulation, a type of social influence to change perception or behavior of others through underhanded, deceptive or abusive tactics.
Social influence is harmless when it accepts the right of the influenced to accept or reject and is not unduly coercive. Depending on the context and motivations, social influence may constitute underhanded manipulation.
Victor Marchetti wrote a 'limited hang-out' is spy jargon for a favorite, frequently used gimmick of clandestine professionals. When their veil of secrecy is shredded and they can no longer rely on a phony cover story, they resort to admitting, at least part of the truth, while holding on to the key and damaging facts of the case. The public, so intrigued by the new information, never thinks to pursue the matter further.
Shame is thought of as one aspect of socialization in all societies. Ruth Benedict says cultures use shame or guilt to regulate social activities. Shared opinions and expected behavior, potential associated feelings of shame are, in any case, proven guiding group or societal behavior.
Shame committed by relational aggression, seen at work as overt social control, aggression. Shame figures in punishment, shunning, ostracism and victims of child neglect and child abuse.
Psychiatrist Glen Gabbard poses a unique pairing; a narcisstic personality disorder into a grandiose, arrogant, thick-skinned oblivious subtype paired with an easily hurt, oversensitive, ashamed, hypervigilant subtype. The oblivious subtype presents for admiration, envy and appreciation a grandiose self, the antithesis of a weak, internalized self, hiding in shame while the hypervigilant neutralizes devaluation by seeing others as unjust abusers.
Paul Hiebert characterizes societies shame.
"Shame, a reaction to other's criticism, an acute personal chagrin at our failure to live up to the obligations and expectations others have of us. In true shame oriented cultures, everyone has a place and duty in society. Self respect determined not by choosing what is good, rather than what is evil, but by choosing what is best for me."
Personal desires are sunk in colletive expectation. Those who fail often turn aggression against themselves, instead of using violence against others. By punishing themselves, they maintain their self respect before others. Unlike guilt, shame can not be relieved by confession or atonement. Shame is removed, honor restored only when you fulfil society's expectation.
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