Personal space
Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits to identify reasonable, permissible and safe behavior, a violation of, pays in some social sanction.
In a world of intangibles, no wonder we, and others, walk on eggshells, become an inadvertent drop of ink in our glass of water. We all need space.
Mental boundaries concern beliefs, emotions and intuition. Spiritual boundaries pertain to self-esteem and a sense of identity. Together they make up psychological boundaries.
Soft boundaries merge with others. Soft boundaries are easily manipulated. Spongy boundaries have soft and rigid outline. They permit less emotional contagion, but are unsure what is left out, what remains. Rigid boundary is walled off and can be selective, depending on circumstance, based on a previous bad experience.
Flexible boundary is ideal, normal. It takes in, leaves out, is resistant to emotional contagion, is not easily fooled.
To reiterate, every intimate relationship needs space and personal boundaries.
Co-dependent personalities have particular difficulty maintaining boundary, with the best of intention, accomodating other's reaction can leave us in a less than ideal situation. It's essential for effective definition and protection of boundary.
Some personal boundaries may cause a deterioration, need bleeds. Dysfunction is reinforced through perpetuation or enabling. In a positive sense, enabling references good interaction for growth and development.
In a negative sense, intention to help perpetuates a problem, a third party takes responsibility, blame or makes accomodation for someone's harmful conduct. The practical effect, the person does not have to comply, is shielded from awareness of possible harm, free of the need to change.
In dysfunctional families conflict, misbehavior and abuse happens continually, regularly, leading others to accomodate such action. Sometimes, children, in these families grow up with the understanding this is normal.
Regard our personal boundaries.
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