Communication
Communication is the flow of information in relationships. Information flows between people just like traffic flows on a highway or water flows in a stream. A chemistry that cliques like a glider is good. Bumpy turbulence causes problems.
Communication in relationships predicts relationship success or failure.
Breaks in the flow of information as people talk and listen to each other may occur if one person says something that sounds critical or otherwise threatening to the other.
Ruptures in the flow of smooth information-sharing, that is, of cooperative dialogue, occur also if there are listening glitches.
Turbulence in dialogue flow occurs when negative emotions become too highly aroused. Like a stream rushing over underlying rocks, the flow of information gets bumpy as emotions get too intense from underlying subconscious boulders.
The bottom line is that without smooth information flow couples become frustrated with each other. They can't make decisions together. They can't clear up inadvertent upsets. They can't learn or grow together. They cease even to have fun together any time fun means talking. Serious danger signs!
There is good news however. The moral of the story: if the flow of communication in your relationships seems excessively bumpy or ruptured, get help.
Flow makes movement look easy. But just like the smooth graceful movement of a great athlete that seems effortless, flow in challenging relationships takes learning and lots of practice.
Susan Heitler, Ph.D.
Psychology Today
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