None of your Business
We're not supposed to have any control, whatsoever, over our friend’s behavior. Simply because their behavior is none of our business. Our opinions of others' lives are void of inherent importance or meaning. This, the price of loving people born with a measure of free will. Control is never, ever, an option. We can no more dictate friends' actions than they call the shots for us. This, the most slippery slope on the friendship mountain, the most demanding incline of all, how to be hands off and hands on at the same time? Committed but not attached, attentive but not invasive, present yet innocently distant. This distance is extremely important. Friendship requires distance and closeness, just like any intimacy does, which is why knowing when to keep our mouths shut is such a virtue. Skillful detachment proves to our friends that we love them for who they are rather than the person they'd be if only they were perfect and, just listened to us.
Psychology Today
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