Dignity Violator
No one wants to be accused of violating dignity. It is a stark and bold interpretation of what happens when people feel emotionally injured. Because these injuries happen routinely and, up to this point, have gone unnamed, hearing the word violation does get people's attention. And yes, it does elicit an unpleasant feeling when the mirror is held up to us, when we see for the first time, what other people have seen for a while. We all have blind spots. It's part of our shared humanity. We will feel some embarrassment, if not shock, when we learn how we have unintentionally harmed others by our actions.
We have instincts that protect us from exposing our mistakes. This self-protective instinct keeps us from looking bad, and more importantly, feeling bad about ourselves. But it comes at a tremendous cost. What we end up doing is passing up an opportunity to grow and develop. Our need for inner stability overrides our need to change something hurtful about the way we treat others. And our relationships suffer because of it.
By the end of each day, we need each other in order to succeed in this world. No matter whether it's in business or in our interpersonal relationships, we might as well understand the truth about what works and what doesn't in maintaining healthy connections.
in Dignity
Psychology Today
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