Break Ups
Saying good-bye is heartbreaking, and most of us are total jerks about it. Bad dumping behavior is booming, especially among the young.
A sociologist says,
"It’s always been hard to break up with someone face to face, but a lack of social skills makes it harder. And we’re learning fewer and fewer social skills.”
The best breakups, if there is such a thing, enable acceptance and minimize psychic wreckage, so that the pain of the ending doesn’t overwhelm what’s best remembered of the relationship.
The challenge of breaking up is to close the relationship definitively and honorably, without devaluing yourself or the person who, previously, was there when you needed them. Yes, Virginia, people can fall out of love with grace and dignity, if only they learn how to breakup with a little class, face and gut.
An anthropologist says because our brains are wired, from the beginning, for bonding, breakups batter us biologically. Initially, everyone reacts to rejection like a drug user going through withdrawal.
Psychology Today
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