Multi Faceted Love
The many sides of love.
Love is an idea, a hope and a myth. Eros, Aphrodite and Cupid are the personifications of love. One reason for the failure of romantic relationships is that partners do not agree on a common definition of love. One believes in true love while his partner sees it as a trivial amusement. One believes that it is a matter of life and the other imagines it as a fleeting thrill. One believes that some people are predestined to love while the other simply navigates according to changing circumstances.
Seeing someone who is constantly watching us or smiling at us, or, in contrast, seeing someone who takes great care not to look at us nor smile at us, according to social roles of gender, the idea of meeting a person whose image haunts us, makes our heart beat all the faster. These signs and many more are the tangible evidence of budding love. These are signs that we produce to show a loved one our desire for closeness and to incite a loved one to respond. These signs are an indication of the emergence of love.
Positive illusions that save love from disillusion, the ability to maintain ideals that have been thwarted by reality, these are the illusions of love. Love is also idealization. Our partner is better than other men or women, in general. Those who truly love each other are never victims of reality, regardless, they reinterpret reality to the benefit of the person they love. In the eyes of love, everything is a sign that the other loves us, and even those who have waited in vain for a call from a loved one, know how to persuade themselves that the other is afraid of the power of their love ... or simply timid.
Love does not allow us to remain what we were. It makes us more alive, more altruistic. We trust in ourselves. We cease to fear, except for losing a loved one. Love gives meaning to our life.
Love that does not change us, is not love.
Psychology Today
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