Station in Life
Many of us put a lot of pressure upon ourselves to achieve. We have an incredible tendency to compare ourselves to other people. If we don't live up to these imaginary lines of success we have created in our minds, then, we suffer.
We must remember that we won't always win gold medals in life! We will all occasionally experience failure and we will all have set backs. No matter how successful we are, there will always be someone who is more successful. We must remember that if we compare ourselves to other people, we are going to suffer. To be happy, we must stop doing this!
Let's celebrate our children, our jobs, friends, memories, our lives! All we have to do is focus upon what we DO have in life. We will lead a beautiful life because we will realize that every life is beautiful. However, the second we start comparing our lives to those of others, we will start suffering. Let’s remember even if we win today, tomorrow we may lose. Celebrating what we do have is a better way to live and is one of the key components of happiness.
Stop playing the comparison game. As long as we need our self esteem to be validated externally, we will suffer.
We must also be careful of other people who love to play this comparison game. They are kind of like drug addicts, in that the game can be intensely addictive. People can get so caught up in always trying to be better than someone else. This way of living is purely self-destructive, if we live like this, we'll never be good enough.
How many times do we witness people who are ‘on top’ leading a path of self-destruction? Being a CEO or a famous movie star isn't necessarily the way to find happiness. It is far better to do what we love just for the love of it and to enjoy life as we are living it. When we are passionate about what we're doing and we're unconcerned about what others think of us, then we are happy.
Just living is worth celebrating! If we manage to do that, then we will find that we are much happier and will enjoy life so much more.
Psychology Today
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