Living in Sin
We are experiencing a trend that include the Millennia Generation's, children born between the 70's and 80's, hesitance to repeat the sins of their divorced parents, insecure employment, career-driven mentality, and the emancipation of women.
Distrust in intimate relating and in the institution of marriage has led some young adults to value sex over intimacy, fun over seriousness, and sexual hookup without emotional attachment. Many of them claim serious relationships are unnecessary to happiness.
This seen as an expression of the despair of youth, rather than of uselessness of intimacy relating to their happiness. It seems that a growing number of young adults have lowered their expectations of being able to cope effectively with an ever-increasingly insecure world. They've reduced themselves to the lowest common denominator in coping ability, and in vision and meaning.
It takes vision to forge a deeply meaningful connection to another human being, especially to celebrate that connection through an institution, like marriage. Our youth has lost a positive vision of themselves in being able to forge such connections and to cope effectively with problems that arise from participating within them.
I'm perplexed however that they would treat intimacy so casually and throw-away marriage as a relationship option. Equating relationships, and not just sex, promises the depth of happiness and quality of meaning and fulfillment that they crave, that makes life so worthwhile.
Meaningful connection to self, others and the world enriches us. To approach yourself and life as important and worthwhile is a psychological strength that motivates you to do what you do. Casual, fun relationships with no emotional attachment are in contrast to meaningful engagement as a strength of being.
To engage fully, you have to express yourself emotionally and spiritually. To disregard these areas of being that most make you, or, even worse, to ignore these areas of experience as non-existent, is a sickness of being.
We are all at risk of short-sighted reactions to the things that happen to us. It is easy for all of us to mistakenly think we are proactively solving problems, rather than simply expressing our despair through avoiding the very experiences that have the power to enrich us deeply.
in Get Hardy
Psychology Today
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