Sex, Still Forbidden
Sex manuals, sex, in general, is a sensitive subject. It is primal and base, and so, not more than a rock’s throw from the toilet.
Last May, the controversial book,
A Billion Wicked Thoughts was published. The book has not been well received. Critics and the public could have been distracted by granny porn and lost interest entirely.
The authors are novices in the sex field. They seem to have been unaware there are some things forbidden in a book on sex.
For example, it's forbidden to claim that sex is in any way simple. The authors insisted men and women use simple, universal sexual cues in selecting mates. That was bound to annoy a lot of people.
It's also forbidden to make categorical statements about the differences between the sexes. There is so much within each other’s definition. (couldn’t resist)
Certain differences in sexual expression may be the result of culture, rather than biologically determined. Which makes generalizations about our true sexual nature very problematic.
Sex is a serious matter for people, and is personal, as well.
Men's arousal appears to be relatively straightforward. When straight men look at videos of naked women, they tend to report feeling excited, and they get a woody.
Statistically, women tend to get genitally aroused by viewing ANY kind of sex, even of bonobo apes making love. Bonobos, colloqially known to be aroused by the jangling of keys, let alone the sound of a zipper.
Furthermore, women are often completely unaware of their nonspecific genital arousal. While a woman watching a video of bonobo sex, her body may react with clear signs of genital arousal, but she may be completely oblivous, may not be aware of any subjective sexual excitement, at all.
Psychology Today
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