The Ultimate
When she was younger this author was convinced that there was just one career that could satisfy me. There was just one guy who could complete me. There was just one pair of jeans that would do me justice.
Ten years later, there is no one anything. My younger self may feel short handed, but my current self is relieved. Had there been just one dream career, I would still be spilling drinks on peeved customers and auditioning for roles that called for half my age that I would never book. If there was just one boy who made me truly weak in the knees, I would still be in the waiting room of his life, scratching my head wondering why my number still wasn't called.
We feel convinced that we have found our predestined paths in life, so even if they don't necessarily make us feel fulfilled or actually pan out, we still commit to them, because we see no other alternative.
The same goes for relationships. Holding onto the belief that you have just one love of your life leaves you in a terrible mess when that relationship ends. Or, you may convince yourself that your current relationship is the right one, even if it's not. Maybe, you begin taking your partner for granted, because you think,
"Well, he's the one, so he'll stay with me forever, even if I treat him like crap from time to time."
Instead of seeking the most from our lives, we remain complacent, oftentimes in mediocre situations, because the truth is, we'd rather pretend that we have something then really work for it. We convince ourselves that the current one is the only one who will love us or is good enough for us.
Psychology Today
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