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Reconnect




Despite a genuine human desire to connect millions are predisposed to undermine social connection.



Against their better interest and best effort, people alienate, rather than engage others.


  The Freudian concept of uncanny describes something familiar and foreign, at the same time. The uncanny brings the paradox of being attracted to, while repulsed, as a cognitive dissonance.Though it can seem uncomfortably strange, the dissonance leads to an outright rejection, people would rather reject than rationalize.



  Talent, financial success, fame and, even, adoration offers no protection from subjective experience. Janis Joplin, said to be shy and withdrawn off stage, was raucous and explosive on stage. She wrote a song claiming to have made love with 25-thousand people, but, was going home alone. Judy Garland, Marylin Monroe and Princess Diana were famously lonely people. Greta Garbo, famous for saying "I vant to be alone".



Loneliness isn't so much about being alone, it's about not feeling connected.



  In light of persuasive evidence of our need for connection and a clear demonstration of influence on our physiology, a worldwide epidemic of disconnection has been thought of as personal weakness, a distressing state with no redeeming features. Studies have found these notions to be wrong.



  To call it an epidemic of loneliness risks relegated to the advise columns. Say the word lonely and you think dating services, Miss Lonelihearts, "Only the lonely" or Los Lonely Boys. There is nothing trivial, comical or romantic about loneliness. What has come about, loneliness is an aversive signal for the purpose to motivate us to reconnect.





Psychology Today