Cheater's Conscience
It's likely your husband is experiencing intense guilt and conflict that accompanies the selfish and sinful act of infidelity. God put a little voice in the human soul that screams bloody murder at such moments, though some of have learned to stuff a sock in its mouth. Even when we ignore its condemnation, the conscience is a formidable opponent of irresponsibility and will not permit gross violations of moral laws without a struggle. It's not uncommon for a person in this situation to experience a kind of internal war resolved in one of three ways. 1) the conscience wins and the person returns to the straight life 2) the person rationalizes so effectively his behavior seems to be pure and holy 3) the conscience wins, but the person persists in doing what he wants to do anyway.
People in this third category can be some of the most miserable people on the face of the earth. Their behavior has contradicted their personal code of ethics, all attempts to reconcile the two have been futile. Put another way, these people are in a dogfight with their consciences and the fur is flying. Not only psychological disorders, but physical illness can result from such disharmony. Depression, weight loss and sleepless nights are not uncommon. The ordeal is extremely uncomfortable to the sensitive individual.
Dr. James Dobson
Love Must Be Tough
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