Make Nice, Not Right
No matter how much you love others and how good and kind and well meaning a person you are, you may find that some people do not like you. This is puzzling, what did I do to deserve this? You may, in fact, go out of your way to show them how nice you are. Interestingly enough, the more you try, the less likely you'll succeed. Your very attempt will perpetuate rejection and a vicious cycle ensues. There is no exit from that interplay, though the person whose favor you're trying to gain may give infrequent and irregular crumbs of approval to maintain the relationship. The truth is, total hopelessness, in such a relationship, is mercifully less torturing.
Accept others on the basis of their spirituality, ethics and morality. Those who are spiritual will extend their love to you the same way that you do to them, without expectation of reciprocation. They love and they are loving people, period.
Welcome rejection from unloving, unfaithful, unspiritual people who negate others purely on the basis of their own convoluted needs. Reject the love of people who are selfish, greedy, and who lack compassion and integrity. Their affection is deceptive and manipulative. Being unloved or disliked by such non-spiritual people brings you closer to real love.
Psychology Today
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